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A Letter to Myself in 5 Years

I was going about my daily routine of reading blogs from different writers on the web and I stumbled upon Celestine Chua’s Post on LifeHacker

(42 Practical Ways To Improve Yourself).

Most of the practices that she mentions are things that I do on a regular basis and all of which I wholeheartedly agree. But one of the things she listed was to Write a Letter to your future self and I found that to be such a grand idea. I wish I had letters from my life a couple years ago and see where my mindset was at the time and how it compared to now. Who I was 5 years ago is completely different from the life I live now and I wish that I had some record of it. That said, I went about writing the letter and found it a valuable experience and encourage all of my readers to do the same.

I’m not going to write about the specific contents of that letter but goals, dreams, and advice to my future self played a huge role. I hope that when I open the letter in June of 2019, I will have accomplished all of my main goals that I had laid out in the letter. I will mail the letter out via USPS to my business address and have it kept there until a couple years down the road. I can’t wait to see my progress. Here’s a picture of me with the drafted letter. Take part and in the challenge and see where it takes you!

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Things I would tell my 20 year old self if I saw him

I’m a big proponent of  always moving forward and learn from your past mistakes. I think making mistakes is crucial in developing as a sensible citizen in our society. Mistakes make us strive for the better and can sometimes boost our drive to achieve our goals. I just recently turned 27 and there are a lot of things I would love to tell an early version of myself if I ever got to saw him.

1. START YOUR PRACTICE OF MEDITATION EARLY! – Meditation was always on my mind ever since I was in college. The thing is, I never made time for it. Meditation has had a big impact on my life because it allows me to train my mind to think in the moment and to be conscientious of everything and everyone around me. It allows me to learn how to be calm under stressful situation and it helps me become more motivated and focused on all of my tasks. Currently, I am still meditating for only a couple minutes a day and I feel like if I had instilled this practice earlier in life, I would be much better at the practice today and more calm than I could even imagine.

2. WAKE UP AT 5 AM NO MATTER WHAT – Yes. This is a harsh one for a college student but again it is another habit I would have loved to train when I was younger. Waking up at 5 AM allows for more productivity to happen. I’m more focused on my work and the goals I needed to get done that day. Although I feel like putting 5 AM call time on a college student is insane, I think that I would have reaped the benefits by up to this point. I still struggle with waking up early and not feeling rested but the days I do feel rested and woke up early, I find myself in such a fast paced and ambitious mindset and get a lot done.

3. BE MORE PROMISCUOUS – Okay, this one might be controversial only because it involves sex and the idea of using your body more. As a gay man, I found myself really isolated from the gay community when I was younger. Even though I came out when I was 18, it was not until I moved to Hollywood in my mid 20s that I found myself learning to interact with others who share the same sexual desires as I did. I also was a stickler in terms of sex and was not willing to give my virginity up to anyone just for the heck of it. Looking back, I think this is still a great rule to follow but I did have flirtatious experiences that could have led to a more intimate setting and I wish I took advantage of it. I think learning about yourself sexually is a very valuable experience for when you get older. Don’t care what people say about you and your life. Live how you want and if you are open about your sexuality then more power to you.

4. READ, READ, READ – GAHHHH I can’t stress this one enough. Even though I feel like I am someone who is on top of his game in terms of organizations and responsibilities and very dependable, I sometimes lack the communication skills necessary to succeed in the work environment. I find myself stumbling over words consistently and not interpreting e-mails in the correct manner. I find this has a lot to do with my reading skills, which I consider poor. I would tell my younger self to read for at least 30 minutes every single day in order to widen their vocabulary database and improve their writing skills. I think reading does an effective job of putting thoughts together and make it coherent. I feel like I would be a much better writer today if I had started reading more frequently in the past.

5. PUT ASIDE $50 EVERY WEEK – Yes..Savings. This is something I fail to do for most of my life. I always feel like I am in a bind but the more I have been saving these past few weeks, the more I realized that I base my budget on not having that $50 and I still am surviving. I think this is crucial because everyone should have a savings of some sort in their life and to be better off in the future. Fortunately for me I have not run into any severe difficulties but one can never predict what may happen. Especially for me working in the entertainment industry, you never know what will happen to you career wise so it’s best to be prepared.

Alas, these 5 tips are things I wish I can tell my younger self if I were to see him. I wonder what I would be like if I was more active in the above habits. Nonetheless, I can’t reiterate how important it is to think in the moment and forget what you could have done. Start instilling these habits now!!! We are still young and there is still so much more life in the future. By the time I hit age 34, I don’t want to see myself saying I wish I started these practices when I was 27!

100 Life Goals & Dreams

It’s important to have some accountability in one’s life. One should aspire to achieve their dreams and life goals and give themselves a sense of purpose. I’ve been reading a lot of self-help books over the past year and it has helped and motivate me immensely in trying to steer my life in the right direction. The thrill and excitement of accomplishing one of my goals recently (running my first half-marathon) gave me so much energy to try to achieve as much as I can before I move on from this life.

I hope my readers are inspired by my own personal journey and I encourage strongly for everyone to create a list of their own and to keep track of their progress.

Have fun and enjoy!

Started this list – December 2nd, 2013

Updated List – May 9th, 2014 – no longer wants to become a teacher. Trying to start a full-service production company.

MUST-HAVE LIFE GOALS [0/5]

1. Own my home
2. Get married
3. Become a father
4. A career that earns $65,000 – $100,000 annually.
5. Adopt a dog

EDUCATIONAL/KNOWLEDGE GOALS [0/5]

1. Get my masters degree
2. Learn to speak a third language fluently
3. Read the entire Bible
4. Be proficient in math
5. Re-learn Vietnamese

FAMILY GOALS [0/5]

1. Buy my parents something big and extravagant
2. Take my mom out on a son/mom date
3. Take my father out on a bonding session
4. Go on a cruise with sisters
5. Travel to several countries with my immediate family

CREATIVE GOALS [0/16]

1. Direct my first feature length movie
2. Publish my first book
3. Publish my first e-book
4. Learn how to play guitar
5. Perform a stand-up comedy routine
6. Play a small role in a movie
7. Have a speaking role on a television show
8. Learn to be a good dancer
9. Create a YouTube video that hits 1 million views
10. Go to SXSW Festival
11. Attend Sundance Festival
12. Perform in a Shakespearean play
13. Give a speech in front of more than 100+ people
14. Host a photography studio showcase displaying personal photos/artistic photos
15. Write a song
16. Write an award winning screenplay

FINANCIAL/BUSINESS/CAREER GOALS [1/21]

1. Achieve financial freedom (passive stream of income to cover all expenses)
2. Zero personal debt
3. Save 8 months of expenses in an Emergency Fund
4. Pay off credit card debt by 2015
5. Open a Roth IRA [ACHIEVED] – SEPTEMBER 2013
6. Pay off student loans by 2020
7. Buy a house
8. Create a steady stream of passive income
9. Save $5,000
10. Save $10,000
11. Save $25,000
12. Save $50,000
13. Save $100,000
14. Save $500,000
15. Save $1,000,000
16. Create an app
17. Start a company, Artistic Division
18. Invent and patent a new idea
19. Have my own home custom built
20. Be a coach of a youth sports team/JV/Varsity team
21. Production company is successful and reputable

TRAVELING GOALS [0/17]

1. Travel to Japan
2. Travel to Australia
3. Travel to New Zealand
4. Travel to Africa (South Africa)
5. Travel to South America (Brazil)
6. Travel to the Caribbean Islands
7. Travel to Latin America
8. Travel to China
9. Revisit Europe
10. Revisit Vietnam
11. Live in a foreign country for one year
12. Go on an African safari
13. Go on a cruise
14. Visit Israel
15. Travel to Peru
16. Visit all 50 states and sleep in each state at least one night

1.Massachusetts – [ACHIEVED] – 1990+
2.New York – [ACHIEVED] – 2012
3.California – [ACHIEVED] – 2009+
4.Washington [ACHIEVED] – 2009+
5.District of Columbia [ACHIEVED] – 2006
6.Florida [ACHIEVED] – 2005

17. Visit Vietnam during Tet Holiday

PHYSICAL & FITNESS GOALS [2/9]

1. Run a half marathon – [ACHIEVED] – TURKEY TROT. NOV 2013
2. Run a full marathon –  [ACHIEVED] – LA MARATHON. MARCH 9 2014
3. Complete P90X Workout without stopping.
4. Have a set of six-pack abs
5. Be a vegan for a month
6. Achieve flexibility in stretching
7. Single-digit body fat
8. Participate in a triathlon
9. Be an avid rock-climber

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE/MISCELLANEOUS GOALS [0/20]

1. Meet Kate Winslet
2. Be in the presence of the President of the United States
3. Be in the presence of the Dalai Lama
4. Be in the presence of the Pope
5. Skydive
6. Meditate with a monk
7. Go scuba diving
8. Play in WSOP poker tournament
9. Bungee Jump
10. Go in a hot air balloon
11. Shoot in a gun firing range
12. Go white water rafting
13. Grow my own garden
14. Take archery lessons
15. Attend a presidential inauguration
16. Hook up with a very sexy model
17. Zero gravity weightlessness
18. Attend the Superbowl
19. Attend a World Series game involving the Red Sox
20. Attend Burning Man in Nevada

GIVING BACK/CHARITY GOALS [1/7]

1. Sponsor a child
2. Sponsor a family
3. Start a non-profit organization for a reputable cause
4. One year of monthly donations (at least $25 minimum a month)
5. Do a random act of kindness, every day, for a full year
6. Volunteer at a hospital
7. Mentor a child – [ACHIEVED] – COACH ART. JAN 2014

CURRENT GOAL LIST: [4 ACHIEVED]

Restart. Do Not Give Up.

I’m such a huge fan of the people around me who are able to take risks. They put everything on the line for something they truly believe in and lo and behold, they accomplish it and have such success. It is these people who have accomplished the perks of riches, flexibility in their daily schedule, living a lavish lifestyle that I crave so often. I am in awe as to how they got their start and whether or not I could achieve those dreams, like them.

I’m here to tell you: I KNOW I can. That’s right. One day, mark my words, I will have enough money to pay off all of my debt and buy a very nice house to live in. I will be able to have my first dog and not worry about whether the apartment will fine me for breaking their rules. Student deb; credit cards; car loans and other expenses will all be things of the past that I won’t have to think twice about. My family. My family…they will be taken care of. My mom and dad will be able to travel the world and see the beautiful things our lovely planet has to offer, without spending a cent of their own. I need them to be happy. I WANT them to be happy.

When I become successful, I will make sure I pay homage to charities and other individuals who are taking steps to achieving their dreams as well. I encourage everyone to help each other whenever possible. No matter who you meet, just come in with the impression that they, as well, are living a difficult life contrary to what our perceptions of them are.

I don’t know what my lifelong career is. Right now, I’m working in the entertainment industry and losing my focus/grip on my creativity as I endure the logistics of travel and very uninteresting topics. I’m making a transition, slowly, but surely to education, hoping to make a mark on our youth by trying to encourage them while they are still young. But will being a third grade teacher be where I ultimately end up, till I lay on my deathbed…I don’t know. But I’m taking a risk and successful people take risks. I’m leaving on career for another.

If you are reading this and you are struggling with your life, I want to let you know that I am struggling also. I live paycheck to paycheck and often make awful decisions that set me further behind, financially and socially. But the one thing that I encourage you to do is to restart…but never give up. When the going gets tough, just know that things will get better. By restarting and re-aligning your life, you get a better idea of what your next few steps are in your life. The path you are living is not supposed to be clear and straightforward but just know that there are always people around you willing to help.

Why this post was created, I really have no idea. I’ve been reading a lot of motivational books; financial books and self-help blogs immensely over the last few months and always looking to better myself. I think if you are ever in need of getting inspired, this is the way to go. It has helped me draw attention to my spending habits as well as forced me to consider the potential of a side business. I’ve been making my to-do lists and achieving most of what is on there, so I am well on my way of what my interpretation of success is.

Again, restart. Do not give up.

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