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EMBARKING ON NEW ADVENTURES

Wow. It has been a while since I last posted in this blog. It is the longest I have gone without posting something and for that, I ask for forgiveness. Then again, these things happen and one shouldn’t be hard on themselves for lingering off path. This is an important lesson to learn because I feel like there is pressure that we feel from time to time to honor expectations. But life happens and sometimes it gets in the way of working on projects. Nonetheless, I am back to write this post because I’m here to inform everyone of a new adventure I am embarking on.

In the past few months, I created my own film and TV production company. It’s my first business and so far it hasn’t taken off, well, because like everything in life it seems, it requires money. But that has not deterred me because I am so aware that a new business takes time to grow and I am willing to wait it out and see what happens. In the meantime, I’ve been working on finishing my first E-Book, which I have decided will also be published in print copy. It should be out at the end of December for everyone to purchase. The funds from this book will help fund my production company.

Aside from film and TV, I am huge into personal development. Although this blog was a step in getting me to write and practice putting my thoughts down, I need a different website to provide personal development tips to a broader audience. I will be creating a new website, similar to many of the other personal development blogs you have seen online that caters to that demographic and audience. I find all of these self-help websites so instrumental in building a community and I highly encourage everyone to read all their blogs as much as possible.

I don’t want to say the name of the website yet but I hope to premiere it in the next few weeks. Along with blogging, I will have a weekly inspirational message video and podcast that I’d like to share with my audience members. It’s going to be basic for now and I know that this will all take time to grow and expand but I am just so ecstatic. It’s great to have a project that you feel passionate about and making this blog is definitely one of them.

My dream is to work from home, earn passive income, and to be able to write and travel at the same time. It is my hope that this can become a reality because going into an office sucks sometimes and I just personally love freedom. It is a luxury that we often take for granted and just the idea of being bound and tied down by the demands of others is just way too strenuous. Being able to live a life where you can have your own set of rules and pattern of work is something I desire immensely.

Here’s hoping that all my fellow readers at this blog will transfer over to my new one once it has premiered. I wanted to provide an update for those of you wondering where I have gone for the time.

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Things I would tell my 20 year old self if I saw him

I’m a big proponent of  always moving forward and learn from your past mistakes. I think making mistakes is crucial in developing as a sensible citizen in our society. Mistakes make us strive for the better and can sometimes boost our drive to achieve our goals. I just recently turned 27 and there are a lot of things I would love to tell an early version of myself if I ever got to saw him.

1. START YOUR PRACTICE OF MEDITATION EARLY! – Meditation was always on my mind ever since I was in college. The thing is, I never made time for it. Meditation has had a big impact on my life because it allows me to train my mind to think in the moment and to be conscientious of everything and everyone around me. It allows me to learn how to be calm under stressful situation and it helps me become more motivated and focused on all of my tasks. Currently, I am still meditating for only a couple minutes a day and I feel like if I had instilled this practice earlier in life, I would be much better at the practice today and more calm than I could even imagine.

2. WAKE UP AT 5 AM NO MATTER WHAT – Yes. This is a harsh one for a college student but again it is another habit I would have loved to train when I was younger. Waking up at 5 AM allows for more productivity to happen. I’m more focused on my work and the goals I needed to get done that day. Although I feel like putting 5 AM call time on a college student is insane, I think that I would have reaped the benefits by up to this point. I still struggle with waking up early and not feeling rested but the days I do feel rested and woke up early, I find myself in such a fast paced and ambitious mindset and get a lot done.

3. BE MORE PROMISCUOUS – Okay, this one might be controversial only because it involves sex and the idea of using your body more. As a gay man, I found myself really isolated from the gay community when I was younger. Even though I came out when I was 18, it was not until I moved to Hollywood in my mid 20s that I found myself learning to interact with others who share the same sexual desires as I did. I also was a stickler in terms of sex and was not willing to give my virginity up to anyone just for the heck of it. Looking back, I think this is still a great rule to follow but I did have flirtatious experiences that could have led to a more intimate setting and I wish I took advantage of it. I think learning about yourself sexually is a very valuable experience for when you get older. Don’t care what people say about you and your life. Live how you want and if you are open about your sexuality then more power to you.

4. READ, READ, READ – GAHHHH I can’t stress this one enough. Even though I feel like I am someone who is on top of his game in terms of organizations and responsibilities and very dependable, I sometimes lack the communication skills necessary to succeed in the work environment. I find myself stumbling over words consistently and not interpreting e-mails in the correct manner. I find this has a lot to do with my reading skills, which I consider poor. I would tell my younger self to read for at least 30 minutes every single day in order to widen their vocabulary database and improve their writing skills. I think reading does an effective job of putting thoughts together and make it coherent. I feel like I would be a much better writer today if I had started reading more frequently in the past.

5. PUT ASIDE $50 EVERY WEEK – Yes..Savings. This is something I fail to do for most of my life. I always feel like I am in a bind but the more I have been saving these past few weeks, the more I realized that I base my budget on not having that $50 and I still am surviving. I think this is crucial because everyone should have a savings of some sort in their life and to be better off in the future. Fortunately for me I have not run into any severe difficulties but one can never predict what may happen. Especially for me working in the entertainment industry, you never know what will happen to you career wise so it’s best to be prepared.

Alas, these 5 tips are things I wish I can tell my younger self if I were to see him. I wonder what I would be like if I was more active in the above habits. Nonetheless, I can’t reiterate how important it is to think in the moment and forget what you could have done. Start instilling these habits now!!! We are still young and there is still so much more life in the future. By the time I hit age 34, I don’t want to see myself saying I wish I started these practices when I was 27!

A Month of Habits

Even before marathon training started back in December, I consider myself to be a very ambitious individual. I would read a lot of productivity blogs and read articles that promoted different habits that everyone should pursue or strive for. Some of the habits that I’ve been working on fell through, whereas others have stuck with me. When March came around, and lent was about to begin, I decided, out of nowhere, that I wanted to give up something. And so I gave up porn. But a couple of days later, I started, after reading different articles to see if I could last a month without other things as well. Here is my journey:

COLD SHOWERS – I started to take cold showers every morning. I would jump in the shower and the turn the knob to the coldest setting possible. The first few days were rough. I found myself shivering uncontrollably. The first day lasted for about one minute but as the days progressed, I stood longer and longer in the cold shower. I found myself being able to fight against the discomfort of the coldness of the water and fighting past the shivering. I was able to brace myself for the sensation of the cold and controlled my breath every time I stepped in. Controlling your breathing is definitely key to having a more relaxing experience but even on day 35, I still struggle with the cold. I found there are many benefits to the cold shower therapy. I became more alert in the initial hour I woke up (although my poor sleeping habits prevented me from being energized throughout the day). I feel refreshed and my skin looks great. However, lately, my back has become really stiff and in a lot of pain and my subconscious is telling me to attribute it to the cold shower and how its causing me to not be loose at all. So as of now, I’ve been doing the hot/cold combo and it’s been pretty awesome and a habit I will be keeping with me for the rest of my life.

LOGGING THE FOOD I EAT – I am on Day 217. I have this habit of writing everything I eat down, the mood I’m feeling and whether I did any form of exercise that day. I found this nice to track your life and your eating habits. It doesn’t necessarily make me change my eating my habits but it does allow me to reflect how my mood may differ from day to day depending on what I eat. I haven’t been able to find a correlation yet between exercise, food and my mood but this is because I haven’t analyzed it fully yet. It’s also nice to show doctors if I ever need to give them a log of some kind of what I’ve been eating. I use Evernote for this task and if you want a template of what I do, this is what it looks like:

Day 217 – 4/14
MEAL:

Breakfast –  Oatmeal
Snack 1 –
Lunch –
Snack 2 –
Dinner –

EXERCISE: None

MOOD: Woke up groggy and not really wanting to get out of bed. Got to work and hammering out everything I needed to get done. Ambitious and motivated.

Day 216 – 4/13
MEAL:

Breakfast –  Ramen
Snack 1 –
Lunch – Pasta with avocado/eggs/mushrooms/peppers
Snack 2 –
Dinner – Turkey burger

EXERCISE: None

MOOD: Rested, motivated to get things done. More awake than day before. Still anxious about hearing

NO FACEBOOK – I’m a huge fan of social media and I think it really connects you with people you don’t normally talk to. Facebook in particular is amazing to network and to find out about events happening in your area. But lately, especially with my marathon training promotion and fundraising, I had been overexposed and felt like I needed to back away for a little bit. And on March 13th, I decided to opt out of Facebook for an undisclosed amount of time. The month without FB has been amazing. I found myself more productive and not looking on FB every time I was bored. I found myself so reliant on it to feed the time that I don’t know what to do with myself, instead of actually focusing on my most important tasks. But the drawback was that I felt really out of the loop when it comes to my social network of friends and knowing what was up in the community. Friends would constantly say that they had photos of me that they couldn’t tag and that they had group messages I was part of and couldn’t respond to. I missed deadlines for social events and surprises and you know what I realized, all of these things didn’t phase me. It’s that phrase “out of sight, out of mind.” Of course I would react after the fact but when it was done and over with, I didn’t really care. Now that I’m back on FB, after a month of being off it, I found myself making a more conscious choice not to go on it every time I was bored. I will set aside a certain period of time to really go on the site and explore but then go back to my tasks at hand.

MEDITATION – This has been a habit that I have been consistently doing for nearly a year now. I only do 5 minutes a day and it is so refreshing to be able to clear my mind. However, it has gotten to the point where I need to improve the 5 minutes and make it 10 minutes or a great length of time. There are some days where I don’t have the time to sit physically in my pose so I decide to be mindful when I am traveling around the city, in my car or what not. I encourage everyone to take up this habit because it really does calm you down and make you more aware of the things around you. It helps relieve tension and forget about the worries of the future and the past. This is one of the lifelong habits that is positive for your health and well-being. Do this!

I have other habits that I am also working on but it hasn’t been consistent enough to write about. But in the next year or so, I hope to make this routine:

WAKING UP AT 5 AM
PLAYING CHESS and/or SUDOKU at least ONCE PER DAY
READ for 30 MINUTES
WRITE FOR 1 HOUR
JOURNAL EVERY DAY

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